portrait of a marriage...

me: "why do you think it is that we never fight?"

husband: "i guess for me, ultimately it's that i respect your position"

me: "so basically what you're saying is that you're afraid of me"

i've often thought that the lord of the ring deserves a medal for his onging optimism, ultimate understanding, and patience...

but since he's spending the week in sunny southern california in a westin hotel "heavenly bed" and i'm sandwiched between stinky and his even clammier phlegm ridden hacking up a lung brother i think we can call it just about even...

today's $1 menu tao

healing

fire cools.
water seeks its own level.

eventually all extreme situations run their course and balance is restored...healing follows the upset cause by turbulence...it is this process of upset and balance upset and balance that brings movement...movement brings change, change brings healing, and healing brings balance...it is a process, a push and a pull...total balance all the time creates stasis...it is the cause and effect and the push and the pull of destruction and the subsequent healing that brings true balance...

above all, the wise are patient...

hmmm, this is interesting and so timely given the above recent conversation because apparently according to this the lord of the ring and i are doomed to stasis because we don't have enough turbulence...

i say fine by me...he was patient enough to wait it out for the right woman and i was wise enough to notice...

x.