1. need your full time, non stop understanding of the absolute constant and intense explosion of growth in body and mind that they are experiencing. even as they don't understand, and are just trying to keep up.
2. chances are when they act out or throw a tantrum they need your ear, your patience, and your touch more than they need to be punished or isolated.
3. never ever underestimate the power of a cold drink and a snack.
4. let them play their music in the car.